Laughing in London
These are getting harder & harder to write. The days turn into weeks and the weeks turn into blurs of memories & fun. I can’t believe I am coming up on a month of being here (whaaaat?!). I say it again & again but time really is flying by here.
This past weekend one of my best friends, Katie, came to visit & she brought along one of my other really good friends, Ethan. They were only here for a night, so we spent the day touring around (Big Ben, Buckingham Palace, Platform 9 & ¾) & our night dancing to 2000’s hits in Soho. We danced & drank the night away (& I wouldn’t have had it any other way). It was sad to see them go but so nice to have a bit of home in this big city.
Now that I’m a month in a lot of people have been asking me what I have “learned so far abroad.” Typically, I say I’ve learned to look a thousand ways before I cross the street here but after giving it some thought I’ve realized that in these past 30 days I have learned a lot. Whether it be about myself, other people, how to treat others, etc being thrown into a foreign city with a bunch of strangers (6 mil to be exact) has taught me a thing or two:
– You must always have a sense of humor & have the ability to not take things personally (my dad always said this to me & I couldn’t agree more, especially now. I was also lucky enough to grow up with brothers who teased me & joked with me all the time. In the house I grew up in you absolutely had to have a sense of humor). Things are going to go wrong. You are going to meet people who are going to want to use you & push your buttons in more than one way. You are going to meet people who you will have a great night with & never hear from again. If you don’t take things too personally/too seriously you are going to have a much easier time in life.
– You aren’t going to be best friends with everyone in life but you better always be nice (my mom ingrained this in me- thanks mum!). Kindness goes a long way- especially with strangers. You never know who you are going to meet. I’ve found that with twenty-somethings there is a culture of “oh well who cares I’ll probably never see that person again” (especially in a big city like London) so people are rude & not their true character when they meet someone out. Even though I am totally guilty of doing this, I’ve been trying to be more conscious of it. You never know who you will run into again in life. Don’t ignore people. Respond to people- others go out of their way for you & you should do the same. Most people are good people, so be nice. Understanding also goes a long way.
– I really like funny people. It’s not that I didn’t like people who were funny/had a good sense of humor before I went abroad, I just now realize how much laughter can bring people together. If you make me laugh (& pretend to laugh at my jokes) then we will be friends.
– If you want to do something- do it. Stop making excuses. If you want to travel, travel (you’ll make up the money at your summer internship). If you want to text someone, text them (if you soon realize they suck, there will be a million more people you meet that don’t). As the days fly by here I’m slowly realizing how quickly time passes.
– People always told me the things above but I never fully thought about it or believed the advice until I started living here. Dance with a random person all night long? Text someone I had a good time with to tell them how much fun I had? Become really great friends with people I only met a month ago? I would have never in a million years thought that these would apply to me. I’ve met people here who I don’t know how I’ve lived without (& others who I am happy I’ve lived without, kidding!) but I wouldn’t change a thing.
I’m done being a philosopher & you have all probably fallen asleep reading this (congrats to those that made it all the way through without dozing off). I hope you all are happy, well, & laughing through life! X’s & o’s- Lo.