Family and Friends
Back home, my family and friends still have each other and life goes on as usual. The only difference for them is that I’m a long way from home. My parents, boyfriend, gran, and one of my aunts have taken it the hardest. I text my parents through an app and Skype, message my boyfriend through another app, and keep my gran and aunt updated with frequent pictures and posts on Facebook. I miss them all terribly. I text my parents every day or two and message with my boyfriend daily. I also have a weekly appointment to talk with my parents on Skype, and we usually talk for an hour or two, just talking and spending time with each other. At first it was really hard, seeing them made me really sad and homesick the first few weeks, but as I settled in here and made friends and started having a life here at school, it got easier to talk with them back home. I still miss them all terribly, but having ties here makes being away from them easier.
One of the hardest things to deal with is the homesickness. Most days it isn’t too bad, but sometimes it just suddenly hits really hard. One of the things I’ve found that helps is staying busy. I’m in 3 societies (clubs), I read a lot, and I hang out with my housemates. The more involved you are in life on campus, the easier it is to fend off being so homesick. When I do get really homesick, though, I talk to someone from home. Either by messaging them and sending pictures back and forth or Skyping. Just knowing that someone from home is paying attention to you and getting that reminder that they’re ok and you are too helps. Another thing that helps is to remember that the feeling will pass and in a few months you’ll be back home with everyone and everything you love.
Some helpful apps: What’s app (both parties have to have the app, uses data on both sides to text/message), GroupMe (you can text people, the app uses data and assigns you a random number from the same area as whoever you’re texting so you need to identify yourself the first time. If both people have the app it works better), Skype (video chats and messaging), Facebook Messenger. All of these apps are free and there are many more out there.